The problem of low self-esteem begins with relying on other people’s opinions about whether we are capable of doing something or whether we are worthy to be loved.
It is a terrible source of suffering, and we must do everything we can to avoid it. Now we will consider some moments of overcoming low self-esteem.
1. Fear of failure
Since childhood, we have sought the support of our parents and teachers in our efforts. Now, that we are adults, we are still afraid of failures and mistakes. We don’t think we have the skills to do certain things.
How to face this fear?
Low self-esteem shows, above all, a large number of fears. The first thing we must overcome is the fear of failure.
Mistakes are not bad. They help us learn how to do better. We must not call ourselves clumsy for making a mistake – there is nothing worse than judging ourselves.
2. Irritability
Bad mood, apathy, and irritability are often images of low self-esteem and even depression.
These are the moments when we feel that we have lost control of everything around us. We no longer have hope, and this is a very dangerous situation.
How to face such a situation?
Identify priorities in which the main goal is to take care of yourself. Change daily activities, set new goals, and try new hobbies.
Turning off the negative voice inside your head will lead you to new dreams.
3. The desire to satisfy people
This may indicate low self-esteem.
Even though outward praise is not a bad thing from time to time, the problem is when we need constant approval to feel good.
How to overcome the need to satisfy people?
Try to do everything yourself, without having to explain your actions to anyone. Enjoy moments of loneliness and, above all, be persistent. Say “no” when someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do.
You have to overcome such excessive dependence on others.
4. Blame yourself for everything
There are times when we feel that everything that is happening around us is our fault:
- If our child does poorly in school, we may not be helping enough.
- When our parents are sick, we tell ourselves that we should have paid more attention.
- When someone criticizes us, we blame ourselves.
How not blame yourself?
We must understand that we must not carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. We are not responsible for everything and do not guarantee that everything around will work.
Release the burden and let your mind and body rest. Just appreciate things. Find moments for yourself and stop analyzing yourself.
5. Lack of hope
It doesn’t matter if you are 8 or 80 years old; people always need some plans or ambitions. We need countless hopes and dreams to fill our lives with color.
If you find that you wake up every day without hope, or a sense of purpose and allow yourself to be guided by other people’s purposes, then your self-esteem needs help. Take care of it.
How to overcome the lack of hope?
In most cases, hope is lost because we get into a tough routine, we lack external stimulation, and we just don’t feel well.
Find new hobbies. Go to a new country, change the scenario, and, above all, find new people. New friends are sometimes the best medicine for the heart.
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